The Perfect Parent Problem Trauma
The post emphasizes that no parent is perfect, and the objective should be to be “good enough.” A good enough parent addresses issues, teaches children about flaws, and fosters safety. Recognizing imperfection helps prevent trauma. Flexible parenting creates supportive environments, ensuring children can express themselves without striving for unattainable perfection.
Justify: show to be just, right, or reasonable.
The content discusses the unnecessary need for self-justification and the subjective nature of perception. It emphasizes that misunderstandings often stem from differing perceptions rather than malice. The text encourages individuals, particularly neurodivergent ones, to avoid seeking validation for their viewpoints and to focus on living authentically without being exploited by others’ demands for justification.
Healing and Healthy Relationships
Healing from trauma is possible, even within relationships. Trauma often attracts partners with similar issues, leading to codependency. To foster healthy relationships, both individuals must be willing to grow. Establishing boundaries and advocating for needs is essential. Ultimately, mutual desire for happiness, even apart, is crucial for reducing toxicity.
DBT Skill: Willingness v Willfulness
DBT emphasizes radical acceptance, urging individuals to embrace situations they cannot change. This involves willingness, which fosters acceptance, contrasting with willfulness, where one resists reality. Healthy relationships thrive on mutual willingness instead of willfulness, promoting genuine engagement without manipulation or unmet expectations, ultimately enhancing emotional well-being.
Setting a Boundary v. Being Controlling
Sometimes when people are attending therapy, they misunderstand what a boundary is. Sometimes people will try to weaponize the idea of a boundary with therapy jargon. How can we tell when a person is engaging us in boundary setting versus when they are trying to be controlling or even accusing us of this behavior? The […]
Navigating Forgiveness in Hurt Relationships
Sometimes we get stuck in bad situations where we end up hurting others. This could be related to codependency, where we want the person we hurt to be okay again. It can also happen in more abusive situations where a person is upset that things are not getting better despite an apology or attempt at […]
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the intentional act of paying attention to oneself, sensations, emotions, and surroundings without judgment. It involves exploring internal emotions and can be practiced by reframing experiences with less biased language. Simple exercises, like observing the world for a minute, can enhance mindfulness skills and perspective.
Can I bring someone to my therapy session?
Bringing someone to therapy can be beneficial but should be agreed upon with your therapist. Partners or family members may assist communication or support boundary-setting. However, their presence can also be manipulative. Always discuss the intention and goals with your therapist to ensure a constructive outcome in the session.
Why Burnout is Bad for Business
Burnout arises from harsh work conditions and unrealistic self-expectations, negatively impacting both individuals and companies. Recent research indicates that employee burnout costs businesses significant amounts annually—potentially up to $5.04 million for 1,000 employees. Ethically and financially, promoting healthy work environments is crucial, as burnout can lead to lawsuits and reduced employee retention.
What is resentment?
In the world of Narcotics Anonymous (NA) or Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) it is often said that resentment is like swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies. Resentment is an anger that we feel toward others and is often unspoken. Thus the only person suffering from this anger is ourselves. Over time, this anger turns […]