Emotional Intelligence v. Wisdom
Recent trends emphasize the significance of emotional intelligence but highlight its limitations. Many individuals become confused about applying their self-awareness. Emotional wisdom, cultivated through therapy, helps one navigate emotions by understanding their origins and purposes. It aids in recognizing strengths and weaknesses, ultimately guiding better emotional management in life.
Nice Guys: Attraction qualities for dating.
A lot of online culture will tell you the thing that women are actually looking for good looks in a partner. However, a study across 68,000 people and over 150 countries noted that although looks do make a dent, they are not the top priority for relationships. Kindness is one of the top qualities along […]
Reading the room: Social Norms.
Emotional feedback from close relationships can create fluctuating rules that complicate interactions, particularly with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals. It’s essential to reassess rules made in anger once emotions stabilize, ensuring expectations are agreed upon and not imposed through emotional manipulation. Open communication is key to addressing these issues effectively.
Depression: Why don’t I …?
The content discusses the impact of depression, highlighting feelings of numbness, fatigue, and disconnection from enjoyable activities. It emphasizes the importance of socializing and making changes to counteract depressive thoughts. Encouraging proactive steps like daily routines and community involvement, it asserts that transformation is possible with time and support.
How can I deal with Anxiety?
Anxiety triggers a fight or flight response, releasing chemicals like adrenaline. It can manifest as a physical sensation, resembling a roller coaster ride. Accepting anxiety rather than avoiding it is crucial for managing it. Mindfulness tools, like Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, may effectively alleviate anxiety, as shown in comparative studies with medication.
How do I find the right therapist?
Finding the right therapist is a challenging yet crucial step toward mental health. Start by searching psychologytoday.com for licensed professionals. Consider their specialties, fee structures, and whether they accept insurance. Therapy costs can vary, so choose options that align with your financial situation. Building a solid therapist-client relationship is key for ongoing support.
Consequences of chasing happiness
Happiness is a strange thing in this world, as we are taught to chase it endlessly. Ask yourself, are you happy? In this moment, the answer might be yes, the answer might be no. How long until that answer changes? Can a life be good without having always been happy? Do we only need to […]
Trust your gut
If you grew up in a home that had emotional abuse or gaslighting, that could greatly affect your ability to trust yourself. This is a normal reaction to unhealthy behavior, especially when it is reinforced by an unjust system that supports the perpetrator. It can be easy to blame yourself for anything that goes wrong […]
ADHD: Nature v. Nurture
I recently wrote a book titled Heir of Narcissism. In the book, I present the idea that ADHD is likely caused by the environment, more strongly than we see suggested, and specifically the close emotional relationships a child has with their caregivers. The literature has leaned heavily on the idea that Nature, or our genetic […]
When falling apart becomes comforting in narcissistic abuse cycles.
Shutting down can become a comfortable place for many people who have had difficult relationships with their caretakers. This is especially true if said caretaker is a narcissist or has narcissistic traits. Abusers of this fashion need their targets to perform to a certain level while not overshadowing them. This means that often the abuser […]