How do I find the right therapist?
Finding the right therapist is a challenging yet crucial step toward mental health. Start by searching psychologytoday.com for licensed professionals. Consider their specialties, fee structures, and whether they accept insurance. Therapy costs can vary, so choose options that align with your financial situation. Building a solid therapist-client relationship is key for ongoing support.
Consequences of chasing happiness
Happiness is a strange thing in this world, as we are taught to chase it endlessly. Ask yourself, are you happy? In this moment, the answer might be yes, the answer might be no. How long until that answer changes? Can a life be good without having always been happy? Do we only need to […]
Intellectualization in therapy
Intellectualization is the use of logic and facts to avoid the uncomfortable feelings of emotion. It is often the defense mechanism used by people who struggle with therapy. These people might state that they understand what is wrong, but they don’t know how to change it. I used to always have clients come into the […]
ADHD: Nature v. Nurture
I recently wrote a book titled Heir of Narcissism. In the book, I present the idea that ADHD is likely caused by the environment, more strongly than we see suggested, and specifically the close emotional relationships a child has with their caregivers. The literature has leaned heavily on the idea that Nature, or our genetic […]
When falling apart becomes comforting in narcissistic abuse cycles.
Shutting down can become a comfortable place for many people who have had difficult relationships with their caretakers. This is especially true if said caretaker is a narcissist or has narcissistic traits. Abusers of this fashion need their targets to perform to a certain level while not overshadowing them. This means that often the abuser […]